Reddit users have sided with a woman who got into an argument with the mother of the groom at her friend’s wedding after bringing her own food to the reception.
In a post shared on Monday under the username u/farsia2010, the poster explains that due to some health issues she can’t eat anything that contains dairy or gluten, and so she let the bride know about her issue beforehand.
However, the bride said that her caterer could not accommodate her, and she hoped she could “make do with the salad and fruits.”
So when the wedding day arrived, the poster brought own dinner to the event, to avoid getting sick or fainting.
“I didn’t want to cause trouble, so I just quietly brought a small container of safe food in my bag (literally just grilled chicken and rice),” she wrote in the post.
“When dinner was served, I discreetly went outside for 5 minutes, ate it quickly, then came back in to join everyone. I didn’t make a scene, didn’t bring smelly food, didn’t take anything away from the event.”
Then out of nowhere, the mother of the groom, who had spotted her eating outside alone, started telling people that she was “disrespecting the caterer” and “making the couple look cheap.”
The poster, who has requested to remain anonymous, told Newsweek that the mother of the groom confronted her a few hours after spotting her eating in the bathroom, and told her that not only she made her son look “cheap,” but that she also humiliated herself by eating by the wall on the way to the bathroom “like a homeless person.”
“I was just stunned and didn’t want to cause a scene with the groom’s mother so I just quietly explained my allergy and that the bride said that the caterers couldn’t guarantee safe food for me and that I had a medical condition that necessitated special food adjustments,” she said.
“She said that that was my problem not theirs and it was on me to make sure that my ‘medical stuff’ doesn’t ruin it for others and I should have either not eaten or eaten before the wedding and not embarrassed the couple, the caterer and myself. I didn’t say anything at all at that and just smiled and left.”
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The poster hasn’t yet notified the bride of her mother-in-law’s behavior, but is planning to do so at some point, once the couple is back from their honeymoon.
“I don’t want to ruin it for them by causing tension between her and her [mother-in-law] and potentially her new husband, because it is his mother,” she said.
“I don’t know if she told them but I heard nothing from them about it. When we meet next time, I’m planning to tell her cause it is now making waves in our friend group and I’m getting messages from some guests telling me to apologize to the couple.”
Due to the wedding being quite lengthy and out of town, the poster had no other choice but to bring her own food or starve until she got home. However, she did discuss with the bride her plans to bring her own food ahead of the ceremony, and she had no problems with it.
“We have known each other for a while so she saw how food that is not safe for me can hurt me and is used to me being careful with what I eat,” she said.
The video quickly went viral on social media and it has so far received over 7,100 upvotes and 1,200 comments on Reddit.
One user, IamIrene, commented: “[Not The A******]. You took care of your own needs. That’s it. Is it somehow respectful to eat food that would physically harm you? LOL. No. The groom’s mother is looking to make trouble where it doesn’t exist. Ignore her.”
Witty_Commentator said: “If I were the bride, I would carefully take note of [mother-in-law]’s big red flag. Since OP is a friend of the bride, this could be a sign of troubles to come.”
Snackinpenguin added: “The reality is.. the wedding was cheap AF if they couldn’t get you a gluten-free or dairy free meal. And that you were somehow expected to suffer in silence for an entire evening surviving on lettuce and fruit? You weren’t drawing attention to this, they did.”
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